Men. Oh yeah, you knew it was coming. Last month we celebrated all things maternal in honor of Mother’s Day. So in June, it’s time to turn our attention to the really cool men in our lives.

I’m desperately in love with my husband, and I love all of the male family and friends in my life. But let’s face it, women, we’ll never understand men for as long as we live, nor them us, no matter how hard we may try. I think it’s just a law of nature. They think we’re complex, multi-dimensional and ulterior in our motives. (That’s just because they can’t understand the more intricate compound of our species.)

When I say, “Does this dress make me look bad/fat/chubby,” the answer is, (and let’s all say this together) “NOOOOOOOOO, you could never look bad/fat/chubby, baby. You look beautiful! You could make a potato sack look hot!” Is that so hard? I think not, however, the proper way to answer this question continues to elude men. Instead of reassuring us, they say things like, “Well, it’s not the most flattering thing I’ve ever seen you in,” or “Maybe you should try something else.” Little do they realize that you spend the rest of the evening mentally sorting through every single piece of clothing in your closet trying to decide which ones he thinks are unflattering. You obsess silently. You go shopping the next day because you want to look flattering in your clothes. You spend a lot of money, and every time you try something on you ask anyone in the store who will look if that piece of clothing looks flattering on you. Basically you feel exposed. You’ve given your power away because you don’t live in your power the way you need to every day of your life. You’ve given that power to someone else, and that is not okay. So, instead of trying to make him what he is not - a mind reader and reassurer, otherwise known as female – never again ever ask him how you look in an outfit. This fact has made me finally come to realize that what drives us mad about men is their simplicity. They always mean what they say. There’s no creative allegory in their relaying or hearing of a story, no elusive metaphors or insinuations that we ladies thrive on in their day-to-day conversation. No labyrinth of the mind that engulfs all of us of female persuasion. As a matter of fact they’re allergic to insinuation. They have absolutely no idea how to ‘read’ someone’s hidden intention. How many times have you heard a man say, “Just come out and tell me what you want. I’m not a mind-reader.”

Simplicity -- it’s a beautiful thing but confounding. How can someone be so….. so….. uncomplicated? So straightforward? So basic, so non-circuitous in thought? Our relationship with men is as complex and multi-dimensional as our genetic make-up. Maureen Dowd writes in an amazingly revealing article about men’s and women’s differences, right down to our DNA:

BODY CONSCIOUS

Want to walk into a room like you own it? Then practice your S Factor Walk. Now, I realize you can’t walk down the street in a full-blown, exaggerated S Walk, but practicing this walk at home will result in a more powerful, sensual stride to your everyday walk. Nothing transports you from the world of the ordinary into the realm of a sensual, powerful female like your S Walk. Let the lioness inside you come out and play as you stalk your prey with slow, deliberate, perfectly controlled movements. And before beginning this exercise, turn up the music, preferably something with a pulse, a thump, and a wave to help guide you around the room.

1. Slow it down. Walk in your normal, everyday walk a couple of times around the room. Now slow it WAY down, about a quarter of your normal speed, inhaling on one stride, exhaling on the next.

2. Cross over. As you step at this slow pace, slowly cross one foot over the other. This may feel awkward at first – that’s okay. Believe me, it will feel oh, so natural and luxurious in time.

3. Drag. Become aware of your back foot. As you bring it forward, softly brush the floor with the top of your foot. Imagine you are walking on a beach and drawing a line in the sand with your toes.

4. Fall into the hip. Now as you step forward, fall into your hip. As your left foot becomes firmly planted on the floor, push your left hip out. Exaggerate the movement. Allow your body to fall even farther into your hips on each stride. Nothing is too sensual, too extravagant here - but it is all controlled.

5. Strut your stuff. Arch your back. Open up your chest as you push your shoulders back and your breasts up and out - and let your butt stick out in the back. Exaggerate those curves, relish in them, and take up as much room as you can.

6. Play. Don’t be afraid to move your arms, let your hands accentuate those curves by roaming over your body. Toss your hair; lift it with your hands. Don’t allow any thought or fear inhibit your movement. Sometimes I tell my students to think of Jessica Rabbit, the curviest cartoon character ever created!

7. Circle ten times clockwise, then change direction for ten more circles.

I realize it will feel strange at first, but with practice, you will be able to turn on that walk in a second. It will become second nature to you because it is a natural, sensual movement for the female body.

S Factor Poll Results

I am the mother of:
1+ children: (73.53%)
spouse: (2.94%)
friends: (2.35%)
co-workers: (1.76%)
boss: (0%)
all: (13.53%)
none: (4.71%)

I love my kids, but hate the job of mothering:
strong agree: (17.65%)
some agree: (50.59%)
disagree: (26.47%)

Since becoming a mother, I still feel sexy:
all time: (41.76%)
once a week: (26.47%)
rarely: (21.76%)
never: (4.12%)

Since becoming a mother I have sex:
less than once a week: (42.94%)
once a week: (24.71%)
once a month: (7.06%)
less than once a month: (6.47%)
what is sex?: (11.76%)


The last time I wore a sexy piece of lingerie:
now: (32.35%)
yesterday: (10%)
last week: (13.53%)
last month: (10.59%)
last year: (7.65%)
can't remember: (22.35%)

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